Becoming bitter about dating
How women who are dating over 40 can recognize the Bitter Woman Femi Type and avoid becoming it In an effort to help you understand the man side of this midlife dating experience, I’ve introduced you to The Princess, The 18 Year Old, The Scaredy Cat and The Wow-Me Woman: all Femi Types* that send good men running.
It doesn’t occur to her that the lack of a great relationship in her life has anything to do with her. We had a good phone conversation, and at the end I suggested we meet for coffee.
She said something like ' Oh…you don’t take women you meet in grocery stores to dinner? This is part of the work we during Step 3 of my 6-Step Find Hope and then Find Him System: I’m Fabulous So What’s the Damn Problem? Thankfully, the vast majority of you rockin’ ladies take your lumps in life graciously.
' I told her I thought coffee would be a good start, and if we wanted to we could move on to dinner."I could tell within minutes after we met that she had a chip on her shoulder about me not taking her to dinner. And the rest of the time she was bashing her first husband and all her online dating experiences. And then she had the nerve to email me wondering when we were going out to dinner. I can’t imagine any guy making that woman happy." Perry was a nice enough guy. She knew next to nothing about him yet was already assuming he was a cheapskate or a jerk…and he knew it. We uncover your negative patterns and deep beliefs that have been guiding your interaction with men…probably for a very, very long time. If you see any Bitter Woman in you, you can choose to take personal responsibility for creating your new truth. It took some serious work for me to get past my "Men Are" nonsense. You’ve had your share of disappointments and hurt with men, but you don’t hang on like The Bitter Woman.
So buckle your seat belts; this may get a bit bumpy.
The good news is that you will probably not recognize yourself here – though I’ll bet you have a friend or someone else in your life who is The Bitter Woman.
(These are not women to talk to about your search for love, btw.) Who hasn’t had periods of feeling bitter?
Whether you’ve been passed over for a promotion, had a crappy childhood, or had a man do you wrong, by this time in your life you’ve taken a fair share of hits.
A grownup woman accepts that life does not always go her way. She marinates in her victimhood and anger, making most anyone who crosses her path pay for her disappointment.
(Especially the men.) Not coincidentally, The Bitter Woman constantly meets bad men who piss her off. ", but she will always get to "He’s a total asshole." When it ends (and it always does), she is even more convinced that all men are jerks.
Her toxic anger then reignites, and she is ready for the next target.
When it comes to assigning blame for her crappy love life, she is all about pointing fingers and never about looking in the mirror. She was attractive and I liked her spunk, so I asked for her phone number.