Believe me, I have spent many nights racking my brain trying to figure this one out for myself back in my teenage years.I yearned for that one magical verse or explanation that makes everything clear.Let me break the suspense by saying that I have yet to find that one verse.

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I hate to take something from a song, much less a Beyonce song but in this case, "If you want it, then you better put a ring on it." (Of course when it comes to Muslims, you don't need a ring to get married but you get my point.)Basically, Dating makes you forget about Allah (obeying him, doing the right thing).

The daily challenge of obeying Allah and doing the right thing becomes harder and less active in your mind as you become increasingly attracted to your mate with your thoughts, emotions, and time.

Although you may use good arguments to comfort your mind that your actions are harmless, your soul feels the energy being zapped away and becomes weaker and more vulnerable.

What's the big deal with a little kiss or hand holding?

Yes, I can certainly relate that it's innocent and very common, but I can assure you it's more involved than you imagine.

For one thing, there are verses in the Qur’an which regard this type of interaction as much more serious than we would like to think.All the mushy stuff--unfortunately for those unattached--should only be reserved for husband and wife.My findings brought me to the realization that dating is a process which occupies a great deal of your emotions and tempts you physically so fast that you don't realize what hit you. The "game of dating" --especially if you're a Muslim-- inevitably spins out of control and becomes very hard to maintain.The real challenge to your faith starts when the attention shifts away from the needs of your soul to the needs of your body and drains your efforts to increase your remembrance of God.Typically, the word dating is used when a guy and a girl develop both an intimate physical and social relationship together.The physical part is as simple as holding hands and gradually evolves into hugging, kissing and eventually S-E-X.