An ugly woman who could work was often considered a better catch than a beautiful one who couldn't work.Men have traditionally married between 20 and 30 years of age, and women between 18 and 25 years.When Vietnamese marry, the woman doesn’t change her family names.

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Couples have traditionally been expected to marry within their village and class with marriage to cousins or within the extended families being frowned upon.

Couples have traditionally been expected to live with the husband’s parents until they could afford a place of their own.

In the old days the bride was usually several years older than the groom.

The reasoning went that an older woman was stronger and more able to perform farming chores.

It involves not only the difficult issues of romance, sex and gender, but also family, class and social status; in addition, the approval and support of others play a larger role than it typically does in America.

Vietnamese culture has a well-developed system of morals and social rules dating back thousands of years.Tradition places men and women in highly compartmentalized roles and emphasizes the importance of preserving your own moral integrity and the integrity of the other person.Marriage is regarded as being permanent and brides are expected to be virgins when they get married.But the children will carry the father's last name.Monogamy is expected to be observed during marriage—at least among the wife anyway.The family of the groom approves the marriage and organizes the wedding for him.